Couples’ therapy is a way to deal with the challenges that a couple faces and does not allow the individuals to live every day with deep understanding, respect and joy. The main purpose of the therapy session is to put the relationship in the spotlight, so that the couple can overcome any difficulties with respect and honesty, thus entering a new reality where individuals can be themselves and will allow their partner the same. It is of vital importance to comprehend that in a couples’ session, the client is the relationship and not the individuals.

In couples’ therapy, my purpose is to create a safe environment where we can explore and understand how each partner contributes in a dysfunctional pattern of connection and communication and then be able to express any emotions, needs and expectations with mutual respect.

In couples’ therapy I work based on two principles. The 50%-50% principle and the 80%-20% principle. The 50%-50% principle is based on the fact that in a relationship, both (or more) individuals are equally responsible for everything that works or does not work. The 80%-20% principle is based on the fact that in any exchange between the couple, 80% of any behavior derives from the experiences of the past (how they grew up as a child, their relationship to their parents, as well as how the environment reinforced the way they see, react and communicate with other people), and only 20% derives from what is happening in the here and now, as in the relationship our partner becomes our mirror on which we project ourselves.